Everybody I know is working on one issue or another, trying to move into a better space in their lives, some big some small. Most of the issues we struggle with are the deep rooted ones that were planted there when we were children.

Knowing that, as a parent, how careful are you with the seeds you are planting in the fertile soil of your child's mind? By not thinking, are you planting weeds that they'll be struggling with for the rest of their lives ... just as you are struggling with your deep rooted weeds?

Is your goal to build up your children with every conversation you have ... even if it's a reprimand.

Children are in a huge learning mode. Of course they are going to make mistakes over and over until they "get it". Just as when they started to walk, they didn't simply stand up and run. They tried and tried and failed and failed ... tried and failed until they understood how these things called legs work.

It's the same with life ... they'll keep trying and failing until they get how life works. Now you didn't go ballistic or speak negatively to them when they couldn't walk first try. So why is there negative talk instead of encouragement when they don't get a life lesson on the first or tenth attempt?

The reason is that it is all about you and your frustrations and your ability to give to love in a non-judgemental way. Parents are often so aggressive and demanding in the language they speak to their children ... in a way that they never ever think of speaking to others at work, for example.

Words have an everlasting effect on children. (You remember?) You have the power to speak life to your children and to plant seeds of self-confidence to encourage their dreams.

As a parent, set the standard for how your children treat themselves and how they demand others treat them.

Every unreasoned criticism you blindly thrust upon them robs them of self-esteem and they are inwardly wounded, believing they're as awful (or worse) as your accusations ... and you just thought it was a passing comment from you.

You are their protector ... how you engender trust as the protector will affect how they see themselves in life ... for the rest of their lives.

Be slow to anger and quick to forgiveness. Give children the benefit of the doubt in every situation, allowing them a chance to express their point of view ... without your judgement.

Today, you are writing on the blank pages of your child's life story. Choose beautiful words of love and encouragement ... it's what you wanted when you were a kid, isn't it? And wouldn't it have made a difference to who you are today?



Self-Reflection Questions:
1. What tone of voice do you normally use with your child?

2. How have the words of your own parents affected your life?

3. What are you teaching others about how they should treat your child?



When we give freely, we are telling the Universe that we have no fear of lack and that we truly believe that abundance will flow into the space created by our giving.

 
Learn from others' experience ....
The finest inheritance you can give to a child is to allow it to make its own way, completely on its own feet.
~ Isadora Duncan